[Robert Goolrick] ↠´ The End of the World as We Know It: Scenes from a Life [zimbabwe PDF] Ebook Epub Download ↠´ It Was TheS, A Time Of Calm, A Time When All Things Were New And Everything Seemed Possible A Few Years Before, A Noble War Had Been Won, And Now Life Had Returned To Normal For One Little Boy, However, Life Had Become Anything But Normal To All Appearances, He And His Family Lived An Almost Idyllic Life The Father Was A Respected Professor, The Mother A Witty And Elegant Lady, Someone Everyone Loved They Were Parents To Three Bright, Smiling Children Two Boys, And A Girl To All Appearances, Their Life Seemed Ideal But It Was, In Fact, All Appearances Perhaps the people who wrote reviews for the back cover of this book read something completely different than what I checked out from the library, but who knows The first third of the book was wonderful perhaps this is all you have to read to write a back cover review and Mr Goolrick really set the backdrop for telling his life as he remembers growing up in Virginia in another era I was actually estatic for thinking that perhaps I picked a sleeper of a book, but then all of a sudden things changed There was no transition between chapters and then by the end of the book it was mostly his tortured rambling about how pathetic his life was, is and just might continue to be Don t get me wrong, not every life has to be bunnies and roses, but something coherent here would be nice to end the story on The further you get into his story the worse the presentation got He says he is telling his story so bad things don t happen to other kids like they happened to him, as well as to tell family and friends that he has been living a lie all these years I suppose if there s something that private that I need to tell my family and close friendsI d suggest calling a meeting, not writing a book Great start, but really incoherent, rambling, disconnected ending.
I read Robert Goolrick s book, A Reliable Wife, before I read this one I wish I had read this memoir first I found Reliable Wife to be a somewhat disturbing story and I wasn t sure why Now that I ve read The End of the World As We Know It, I think I have a little insight This book was very difficult to read It is the story of Mr Goolrick s life growing up in the South Virginia and his life dealing with alcoholic parents and sexual abuse he suffered at the hands of his father when he was a very young boy Consequently, as a result of his circumstances as a grown man , he dealt with his own alcoholism, depression and time spent in a psychiatric hospital because he could not stop cutting himself to get relief from his pain.
This story was heart wrenching and although it was very difficult to read, I felt great compassion for Mr Goolrick and I finished the book hoping that the process of writing his story would somehow allow him to have some peace in his life so that he might heal and feel whole His very painful story is a reminder to all who read it just how child sexual abuse can destroy a person and keep them from developing normal, healthy and loving adult relationships It changes a child forever.
I didn t know what I was getting into when I picked up this book It was like I picked up a ticking bomb without knowing it I grew up in a chaotic, dysfunctional family where I never felt safe I was constantly trying to crack the code and make things better in my family Eventually I just wished I wasn t born at all I ve blocked out most of my childhood Reading Robert Goolrick s book brought back so many memories, memories I didn t know I would ever recover I actually had to write him and let him know how powerful his book was for me.
In terms of memoirs, this one is a doozy I loved the way the book sucks you in with these beautiful stories and then hits you over the head with the truth The set up is similar to the way dysfunctional families tend to operate Initially everything seems normal, even glamorous The parents come across as witty, attractive, intelligent and the kids seem perfectly behaved and happy But thetime you spend with that family, theyou see Cracks begin to show In the book, the tone changed I knew something bad was coming I could feel it as if it were actually occurring in front of me And then the facade falls away, and the masks come off Despite the heavy topic and the sadness anger fear that I felt while reading, this isn t a depressing book I thought it was refreshing to read someone who didn t sugarcoat the truth or end with a happily ever after ending Because that s not real life Sometimes people don t ever get over their childhoods, or have the ability to rid themselves of all their scars Sometimes the damage is that serious But instead of keeping all those memories to himself where they do nothing but add to his burden, Robert Goolrick chose to share his life with the world And he did it in hope that it would help another person I applaud his bravery and I highly recommend this book.
I m only giving this book 3 stars only because any normal person couldn t say I loved it because everything about it is so awful Not the writing, I mean, but all of the events in the memoir Goolrick s memories are so raw, fresh, and gritty, the reader can actually feel the pain That is what I really loved about the book In other memoirs that I have read, I thought, oh OK that happened, and that sucks, but I never actually had gut wrenching pain from it If you want to truly know what it feels like to be a cutter, read this book If you truly need to know what it feels like to be neglected, lonely, and abused, again read this book I feel so badly for Goolrick as a person, because after reading this book, I know that he will die still feeling like all of these events just happened to him yesterday I m sorry that none of his numerous medications, time in therapy, and all other ways he tried to deal with the pain never have helped him If you can t handle horrifying memories of a tattered life, do not attempt to read this book.
I can t say that I loved this book It is much too raw, much too explicit, much too painful to love it But Goolrick s writing is amazing, and you want to think it s a novel, something that couldn t have possibly happened to someone, yet you remember it s his own memoirs, and your heart breaks all over again for him, for his stolen childhood, for his parents cruelty, for his failed relationships, for the way he found cutting as a way of release and relief It is mind boggling to know that in the midst of his cutting period, he would slice his arm open yet again, then visit his friend in the hospital with blood dripping from his fingertips, and no one noticed NO ONE NOTICED How can this be How could Goolrick have screamed silently for help throughout much of his life, and NO ONE HEARD HIM And yet it happened And yet it happens every day, to so many people So many stories of cruelty and abuse and negligence and just plain neglect It happens every day.
I can see how people who knew his parents would be angry at him for publishing this after their deaths But I think Goolrick carefully reveals his parents weaknesses without condemning them too harshly He even says near the end that his father wasn t a monster, that he had failed even at that He chalks up the theft of his childhood to his father having had too much to drink that night, unintentionally Though it scarred him forever, Goolrick is careful to say that his father didn t mean it This is a difficult book to read There s a lot of pain, several suicide attempts, a lot of heartache But he ends it with hope that by telling his story, he might be able to save at least one little child from the same pattern of abuse he experienced One passage in particular struck me, and it rings so true that I must quote it here If you don t receive love from the ones who are meant to love you, you will never stop looking for it, like an amputee who never stops missing his leg, like the ex smoker who wants a cigarette after lunch fifteen years later It sounds trite It s true And it is.
some members of my book club complained that this book was not well written i agree The End of the World As We Know It didn t follow traditional literary method, BUT i don t think writing great literature was his intent if you read his novel, A Reliable Wife, you d see that Robert Goolrick is indeed a masterful storyteller both of these books have rec d high praise from many sources including NYT and NPR THIS book is a memoir, a history and a recounting of an intensely deep personal 50 year struggle it s meant to be conversational in tone, and i think, written like one s memorydisjointed in terms of content and timeline, winding its way up and down and around, inexorably to its painful conclusion as he reflects, he s trying to connect events and emotions, and we are wondering throughout WHAT happened to him although we read with a dreadful sense of foreboding when it is revealed , it is heart stoppingly BRUTAL.
terribly painful and damaging events RG notes that psychologists call it soul murder happen to innocent children everyday it IS difficult to read at the end i was crying, with tears literally streaming down my face but if they re kept hidden, there s no chance for healing, and less chance for prevention interestingly, much of the book is factual, with little emotion, and not self pitying, even darkly humorous a few times when i was in the loony bin but if you read the book to the end, he finally shares the shattering event and results of the thing done to him and he lists for several pages the reasons he wrote this book among them, to try to prevent what happened to him from happening to others, to explain to his family friends the reason for his moods actions alcholism, and maybe, for a catharsis of some sort his words cut through you and make you catch your breath when you don t receive love from the people who are meant to give it to you, you spend your whole life searching for it i read the last few pages a half dozen times, slower every time, reflecting on each point one of them I tell it because there is an ache in my heart for an imagined beauty of a life i haven t had, from which i have been locked out, and it never goes away read that several times, slowly, and see how you feel i imagine the reader concludes this book with an ache in his or her heart for the author, and for all the children adults who suffer as he does harrowing, heartbreaking hopefully the telling of his story will give RG a little bit of peace and maybe, maybe stop it from happening to someone else.
I recently listened to an interview with Robert Goolrick on a Twin Cities radio show and it s obvious he is a sensitive, intelligent and elegant man He was promoting his latest book and mentioned how this memoir was published His story reads like a dream in parts and clearly a nightmare in others it s a testament to exceptionally delusional parenting on one hand I m always in utter disbelief the way people come to parent It s not okay to rob your children of devotion, love, attention and protection regardless of what history is in place Goolrick appears to have endured a childhood where no one really talked and especially not about the taboo subjects It was a time when image trumped truth and many of the people surrounding Robert were at best uncomfortable in their own skin It s also a testament to how strong the human spirit really is when confronted by unimaginable acts of abuse.
This story touched my heart in ways I can t fully explain as it s very difficult to read It also made me realize how important it is for each of us to demonstrate the highest form of humility possible.
Whenever I have the possibly perverse desire to be wrong, I only have to use a superlative Sooner perhaps immediately or later, I can see that I was wrong I mention this because of my tendency to think that the last disturbing memoir that I ve read is the MOST disturbing of all all that preceded it, all that will follow it Give me a memoir co starring incompetent, selfish, negligent, and or abusive parents and upon finishing it, I m ready to say Off with their heads but only after they ve endured the most horrible torture imaginable Granted, I get a little carried away with envisioning retribution I readAngela s Ashes , and I wrapped Frank McCourt s father in the Worst Father banner I readThe Liars Club , and I wrapped Mary Karr s parents in the Worst Parents banner I readThe Glass Castle , and the banner went from Mary Karr s parents to Jeannette Walls s parents Wrong Wrong Wrong I just readThe End of the World as We Know Itand Robert Goolrick s parents are, for now, wearing the banner that I had thought others deserved But I know I m wrong again At some point in time, a superlative seems to apply to a person, an achievement, a natural disaster, a whatever then we encounter better than the best and, unfortunately, worse than the worst There is little in Goolrick s life to be wished for nevertheless, his writing style is enviable and to call the arrangement of the scenes from a life the book s subtitle brilliant might be insufficient praise In other words, his is a life I would hate to have lived his is a book that I would love to be capable of writing excluding the generous allowances that Goolrick sometimes makes for parents who merit few, if any Still, I understand the resistance to entirely ending the love of the people who made him, however miserable they have made him Goolrick somehow locates and can embrace a loveliness to life that does not fade a tendency toward grace that does not fail us 206.
At the end of this memoir, Goolrick offers various explanations for choosing to write the book But the last one, which may actually be two, is perhaps the most compelling in the spacing, I find justification for both possibilities But I prefer to see the last two sentences Spoiler I don t think so as linked I tell it because I try to believe, because I do believe with all my heart, that there is a persistence of song 213 I TELL IT for all the boys, for the life they never had 213 There are titles that we can ignore, and there are titles that demand attention Goolrick s is the latterThe End of the World as We Know ItI won t examine each of the words in it though doing so could add to our understanding of its meanings The author s use of a first person plural pronoun implies a connection, not necessarily a specific one, between his experiences and his audience s And his use of a present tense verb declares that what has happened to us never stops existing in this world There MAY be a tomorrow that is not today, but today is definitely not just today today is also the day before it and the day before that one and the day before that one and the day before Unlike many of the readers of this book here, the first third of the book didn t really do much for me I ve read tales of alcoholic parents before and didn t want to read a full book ofof the same But just about the time I was about to put the book down for good the tone and intimacy of the tale shifted That s not to say that it got easier to read, because that s definitely not the case, but Goolrick began to draw me closer to the reality of a life torn to bits by the things he experienced as a boy By the end of the book it was impossible for me to look at the small boy on the front cover without tears springing to my eyes and my heart breaking for all children damaged by those who should love them.
This book is definitely not for those with a delicate constitution, but an honest, well written memoir I hope and pray it reaches the audience it is meant for.